My thanks to James A. Ringold for this bit of advice

After a few hours of fiddling with the RealAudio Server software, all it's port configurations and it's "fun and exciting" Web interface, I decided to avoid the product. Here's how to let your Apache 1.3 web server play Real-Audio Files

put the following in either your srm.conf file or the .htaccess file in the directory you will be serving the files from:

# Added to allow Apache to serve realaudio
AddType audio/x-pn-realaudio .ra
AddType audio/x-pn-realaudio .ram
AddType audio/x-pn-realaudio-plugin rpm     
Now, create your RealAudio files. They will have a .ra extention.

Now, make a .ram "link" to the .ra file like so:

file: music.ram
http://swiftmail.com/music-folder/music.ra

Now, in your .html file, link to music.ram and you are golden.

If you have poor bandwidth, you might want to create a link to music.ra as well. If someone clicks on -that- link, it won't stream. The entire realaudio file will download before playing.